From Anxiously Attached To Secure Attachment

Attachment Styles Help Us Learn More About Ourselves, But Are Not Permanent

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The Pitfalls of an Anxious-Avoidant Relationship

Anxious attachment often leads to toxic relationship patterns. We often attract avoidant attachment styles and vice-versa because we reaffirm one another's underlying beliefs. The anxious type believes 'I’m too much to love' or ‘i'm not good enough, I’m not loveable or there's something wrong with me’. The avoidant provides this evidence by pulling away. Avoidants believe intimacy is smothering and takes their autonomy and freedom away, the anxious style reaffirms this belief. We chase the evidence which is the false currency of safety and thereby lies the self-fulfilling prophecy.

It fuels anxiety, depression and anger, leading us further away from our true authentic self. Self-sabotage and drama cycles become the norm.

Together We Can Co-Create Healthier Strategies

Together we will co-create new, healthier strategies and do the deeper healing work. You will learn true self-love and nourish your self-worth by instilling healthy boundaries, learning how to meet and express your needs, working through resentments, admitting defects of character and honouring your core gifts (e.g. sensitivity). You will lean into your true, authentic self and attract relationships of inspiration who also honour and value your gifts

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